“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning ... Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.” ...

I've written about the downside of being the hero and argued that doing so doesn't necessarily imply that one is a good person. The same can be said about the hero's partner, the people-pleaser.

We must be good and that won’t happen to us.’ My father was the earliest example I had of being a man. Before my mother became a midwife, she worked as an office secretary. Her hours were long ...

Many years ago, I read a book for a college project by best-selling American author Rabbi Harold Kushner entitled, “How Good Do We Have to Be?” It focused on people’s feelings of unnecessary ...